Hurt? Grieving? Lost? So was This Man…

All around me there are hurting people. One of my friend’s is undergoing cancer treatment. Another lies seriously ill in ICU. Others are dealing with grief that wraps its icy fingers around their hearts long after those around them have forgotten and moved on. Some are facing the betrayal of a spouse; others are struggling to overcome childhood hurts and abuse.

My own struggles are not this big, but—even then—navigating everyday life leaves me feeling lost and depleted sometimes. Continue reading

Towdah – Thanking God in the midst of Cancer

One of my greatest joys in the last few years, has been meeting up with other Christian writers. This has happened in several places and in different ways. Online, through the FaithWriters website, where I discovered a welcoming world of men and women who all loved God and writing. Locally, when I had the great privilege of going to a South African Christian Writers Conference, where further connections and friendships developed. The special thing about this ‘connectedness’ is that, not only have I met fascinating people all over the world, but I have also been introduced to writing that I would probably never have discovered.

“Towdah” is such a book, written by a woman called Sheryl Holmes, who I met through an online Writer’s group. Continue reading

Bringing Fun and Creativity back into your Life

Children are the most creative beings on earth. I think that’s because they still know that creativity—be it painting, writing, singing, dancing, baking, or any of the other countless ways we create every day—is all about having fun. As adults we often lose sight of this, and allow issues and insecurities to creep in, robbing us of our fun and creativity.

I thought of some of the fun-thiefs that have hindered me on my own writing journey. Continue reading

Asperger’s Syndrome in Girls and Women

Boys are four times more likely than girls to have Asperger’s Syndrome, the current statistics tell us. But are the stats correct? More and more experts in the field are questioning this ratio and arguing that girls may be going undiagnosed because they are better at camouflaging their social difficulties. It follows that, because their condition goes unrecognised, girls are not gaining access to the understanding and support they need. Continue reading

Water or Wine? Man or Messiah?

On the fourth day of Master Simeon’s wedding feast, the wine ran out. We’d seen it coming, of course. The day before, my brother Jehu had hurried back to the kitchen with an empty wine jug in his hand, his forehead creased with worry. He rushed over to count the remaining wine skins and then silently beckoned me over.

“We’re not going to have enough,” he whispered. Continue reading

Book Review of “The Re-Marriage Adventure”

I’ve watched my sister navigate the turbulent waters of a broken marriage and divorce, and struggle to set a new course for her life. Starting a new relationship, with step-children and ex’s in the mix, hasn’t been plain sailing, but this month she and her husband celebrated their 4th wedding anniversary and the contentment and joy are clearly evident in their lives. As challenging as a second marriage can be, it can also be a true blessing.

Preparing for a successful second marriage is the topic of Dale and Susan Mathis’ new book, “The Re-Marriage Adventure: Preparing for a Lifetime of Love & Happiness” (Focus on the Family). Continue reading

Diagnosing Asperger’s Syndrome—Confusion and Contradiction

Recently I had a discussion with a mom whose six-year old son is struggling emotionally and socially. An educational psychologist who has done play therapy with her son claims it is not an Autism Spectrum Disorder, but the mom says: “I really see so many of the Asperger’s traits in him. I know it might just be a label, but somehow it makes me feel better to have an “explanation” as to the way he acts, which is so different compared to my eldest and my neighbour’s kids.” Continue reading

Teach us to Number our Days

It’s springtime in Johannesburg. The late-afternoon sun is still warm, and the light lingers longer than before. The sky is a deep blue, the dust washed away by the weekend’s rain. The breeze carries the occasional whiff of jasmine, or something equally sweet, which fills me with a fling-my-arms-to-the-sky-and-twirl-around kind of joy. Young, vibrant-green leaves are unfurling, not to be outdone by the pink and white blossoming bushes.

It’s springtime in Johannesburg, and it’s lovely. Continue reading