My Tapestry of Women

woman weavingToday has me thinking about the women in my life. Other than two significant men—my husband and father—my life is a rich tapestry of relationships with women. There’s my mother of course, that strong thread of gold woven throughout my life. My sister’s thread appeared often in the earlier parts of the tapestry—sometimes slightly dark and knotty. Now it appears less often, but has transformed into the warm, welcoming colours of familiarity and friendship. My daughters’ threads are light and lovely—the colour of sky, sea and hope. They intertwine playfully with the vibrant swirls of my nieces’ threads.

On the edges of my tapestry, the wistful patterns made by long-gone grandmothers or distant aunts and cousins, sometimes fill me with a sense of nostalgia. Yet, I feel gratitude that they remain forever a precious part of my life.

The threads of friends are closer to the centre of the weaving. They form a riot of different colours and unique shapes. Some have been a part of the design for a long time. Some appear and then re-appear again later. Some have only just emerged, but are already full of joyful life and colour.

I am so very grateful for each feminine thread in the tapestry of my life, no matter how small or seemingly insignificant. Every part of this tapestry is beautiful to me. I am keenly aware that your own tapestries might have much simpler designs than mine. This does not make them any less lovely or precious. Today is a good day to consider and value the women in our lives and also how important it is to weave friendship, comfort and blessing into each other’s lives.

Writing on what he calls ‘the lost art of blessing’, Irish author John O’Donohue, says:

“Our longing for the eternal kindles our imagination to bless. Regardless of how we configure the eternal, the human heart continues to dream of a state of wholeness, a place where everything comes together, where loss will be made good, where blindness will transform into vision, where damage will be made whole, where the clenched questions will open in the house of surprise, where the travails of a life’s journey will enjoy a homecoming. To invoke a blessing is to call some of that wholeness upon a person now.”

With this in mind, I have written ‘Blessing for a Woman.

This is my gift for every woman who is a precious thread in somebody’s tapestry.




When the world proclaims the face of beauty

and it’s not the one you see in the mirror,

May you awaken to, embrace

and celebrate your unique loveliness.


When voices and hands clamour for attention

as time falls endlessly through the hourglass,

May you hear your own unspoken voice

and be mindful to her pleas.


When harsh words cut you down

and open long-forgotten wounds,

May you, beloved daughter of a King,

stand tall in your dignity and worth.


When the shroud of sorrow and pain

or the darkness of confusion blinds you,

May the dawn of hope

awaken you to your neglected dreams.


When the day’s demands turn to drudgery

casting grey shadows over all you hold dear,

May a spirit of adventure and courage

instil you with fresh life and joy.


May breezes often kiss your face,

Friendship’s gift be a soft, safe place

And may you dance daily in the Arms of Grace.


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  1. This is just beautiful Joan. As women we so often down play our roles in life but this special word picture of the tapestry we weave helps us to understand how essential we are in one another’s story. Each tapestry is more beautiful because others are an integral part of it. And even more wonderful is that your tapestry is part of mine and so women are linked all around the world. Thank you for sharing this with us today. May it touch the life of every woman who reads it.

  2. This is one of my favourite blogs you’ve ever written. It is so lovely to think about the tapestry of women in our lives- thanks for being such an important, beautiful thread in mine. I also thought your blessing was amazing! Love you

    • Thanks Nics – you’re such a beautiful and precious thread in my tapestry. I love watching your own tapestry of life unfolding and it’s particularly lovely. xxx

  3. This is so very beautiful Joan! Resonated with my state of mind. Thank you for your precious words x

  4. Thank you for the beautiful blessing!

  5. So lovely Joan. I am so happy to be one of your threads.

  6. I love the poem. sometimes life happens and we need to be reminded that we are the daughters of the King.

  7. I loved your analogy. Thank you for weaving some of your golden threads into the tapestry of my life, Bless you xxx

  8. So beautiful xxx

  9. You have a niche for words expressed in such a fashion it makes you humble and appreciative at the same time. Such a beautiful story!

  10. Beautiful, thank you for blessing us with your words!

  11. Diana Agbayani

    Very beautiful poem.

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